Modern dating is hard. Technology is making it easier than ever to meet new people, and it can be difficult to know who to trust. That’s why people put together comprehensive lists of red flags to look out for early on in relationships. From weird penises to mispronouncing Gnocchi, there are plenty of oddly specific deal-breakers out there.

But now there’s a new dating red flag separating couples literally and emotionally; pole-splitting.

@dilco15 #stitch with @urlolasgf I think of Brenda every time I am walking with a group past a pole #brenda #scarymovie2 ♬ original sound - Dillon

Back in February, the TikTok account dilco15 posted a video of two girls and a clip from Scary Movie highlighting pole splitting. The TikTok has since been shared on Twitter, and its 3.5 million viewers are adamant that you better not split a pole with your partner.

I’ve never heard of this until my ex told me. He was so adamant about not splitting the pole and didn’t explain why.

I still don’t really understand why.

— CEO of Kansas (@LocalOnThe8) May 3, 2023

If I’m with someone who does i politely walk back around the other way bc No lol

— ArielEsq (@ArielEsq305) May 3, 2023

I’m not sure how true it is but I saw something saying it goes back to slavery. People who split the pole would sometimes get split up from their families was the superstition

— KayB (@_kaylabsimone) May 3, 2023

Most red flags are intended to be indicative of a bigger personality issue later down the road. Pole splitting doesn’t do that.

Instead, it’s more of a superstition; a way of living that shows that nothing, especially not a pole, will ever come between you and your partner.